5/9/2010...MY 2ND MOTHERS DAY WITHOUT YOU HERE. BARELY MADE IT THROUGH THE FIRST YEAR. HAD SO MANY THINGS GOING ON THAT I HONESTLY DON'T REMEMBER MUCH ABOUT LAST YEAR. IT COMES IN SPURTS AND THEN LEAVES AGAIN. SOMETIMES I REMEMBER SOME THINGS AS IF IT HAPPENED YESTERDAY. OTHER THINGS, I HAVE TO JUST SIT AND THINK....TRYING TO REMEMBER 'EM. THE MIND, IT PLAYS WITH YOU. I VISIT OTHER SITES OF THOSE WHO HAVE PASSED AND I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW THE PARENTS (MAINLY THE MOTHERS) MAKE IT...YEAR AFTER YEAR AFTER YEAR.
IT'S ONLY BEEN 16 MONTHS, 1 WEEK AND 4 DAYS (MY WAY OF COUNTING) AND THERE ARE TIMES THAT IT FEELS LIKE YOUR LAST CALL WAS YESTERDAY. WE WENT TODAY AND WORKED AT YOUR BILLBOARD (CRASH SITE) AND JUST STOOD THERE LOOKING ~ TRYING TO PICTURE YOU COMING DOWN THE ROAD, NO BRAKES, CUSSING BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE ANY BRAKES, WONDERING WHAT YOU WERE GOING TO DO. YOU'VE GOT TWO OTHER PEOPLE IN THE TRUCK WITH YOU, THEY AREN'T BUCKLED IN (BECAUSE THEY ARE GEARING UP) AND ALL I CAN THINK IS: YOU MUST HAVE BEEN SCARED. I TRIED TO SEE WHAT YOU WERE SEEING WHILE COMING DOWN THE ROAD. YOUR OPTIONS WERE: GO STRAIGHT AND CRASH HEAD ON INTO THE EMBANKMENT AND CRUSH THE FRONT END OF THE TRUCK IN ON YOU AND MATT OR DO WHAT YOU DID AND CUT THE CORNER / CURVE AND HOPE FOR THE BEST. YOU TOOK THAT ROUTE ~ BECAUSE THE OTHER OPTION YOU MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT WAS TO GO INTO THE OTHER LANE (ON COMING IN A CURVE) AND I KNOW YOU DIDN'T WANT TO GO AGAINST WHAT YOU WERE TRAINED TO DO. EVEN THOUGH YOU WERE IN EMERGENCY MODE, LIGHTS GOING - YOU WEREN'T SURE IF THERE WOULD BE ANY ON COMING VEHICLES AND DIDN'T WANT TO RISK IT. SO, I STOOD THERE THINKING ~ YOU DID WHAT YOU HAD TO DO. YOU JUST DIDN'T KNOW THAT "YOU" WOULDN'T MAKE IT THROUGH IT.
IF YOU COULD HAVE BEEN ON OUR END OF THIS - THAT NIGHT. WE HAVE SCANNERS IN EVERY ROOM. WE HAD JUST GOTTEN HOME FROM SOME FRIENDS HOUSE THAT WERE HAVING A NEW YEARS EVE GATHERING. WE WERE JUST TALKING OF YOU & YOUR BROTHER. DOING THE FIREFIGHTING THING. THAT WE HAD JUST SPENT HALF THE DAY WITH YOU AT YOUR NEW STATION. CLEANING AND COOKING YOU DINNER. NOT REALLY FEELING LIKE STAYING ANY LONGER, WE LEFT. GOT HOME AND TURNED THE SCANNER UP A LITTLE. GOT READY FOR BED AND HEARD THE TONES GO OFF. IT WAS FOR STATION 2. NO RESPONSE. IT SOUNDS AGAIN. NOTHING. ON THE 3RD TIME - YOU GET ON THERE AND ASK FOR PERMISSION TO RESPONED. YOU GET THE OK AND YOU'RE 'EN-ROUTE. THE NEXT THING WE HEAR IS: SOMEONE ELSE'S VOICE COME ACROSS THE SCANNER SAYING THAT ENGINE 6 HAS BEEN IN A WRECK. THERE'S ENTRAPMENT. KENNY JUMPS UP AND SAYS THAT'S NOT JARRETT. IT SHOULD BE JARRETT TALKING. HE SAID: THEY'VE HAD A WRECK. I SAID: NO, THEY CAME UPON A WRECK. HE YELLED NO....IT'S NOT GOOD! THAT'S NOT HIM. HE - HIMSELF WAS DOING THE RAPID DRESS AND TOLD ME TO STAY AND LISTEN - TO TRY TO HEAR YOU COME ACROSS THE SCANNER. I GRABBED MY PHONE AND CALLED YOUR BROTHER. TOLD HIM THAT YOU HAD HAD A WRECK. THAT YOUR DADDY WAS ON THE WAY AND TOLD HIM WHERE IT WAS. ALL I HEARD WAS THE PHONE DROP. I YELLED YOUR BROTHERS NAME OVER AND OVER AGAIN. THEN, HIS MOTHER IN LAW PICKS IT UP AND ASKS WHAT WAS WRONG. THAT SEAN JUST TOOK OFF AND I HAD TO REPEAT EVERYTHING. I GOT DRESSED AND STOOD THERE. WAITING & WAITING TO HEAR YOU - BUT NOTHING. THEN, ALL OF A SUDDEN - SO MANY TONES WERE GOING OFF - I COULDN'T MAKE HEADS OR TALES OUT OF 'EM. DIDN'T KNOW WHO'S STATION WAS BEING TONED OUT! EVEN LIFE FORCE WAS PUT ON STAND BY. I KNEW THEN - I HAD TO GO. I WENT TO A NEIGHBORS HOUSE AND WHEN HE OPENED THE DOOR, I JUST STARTED CRYING - ASKED IF HE COULD TAKE ME - THAT YOU WERE RESPONDING TO A CALL AND HAD A WRECK. BY THE TIME HE GOT DRESSED, YOUR DADDY CALLED ME AND TOLD ME TO COME STRAIGHT TO THE HOSPITAL. I COULD HAVE WALKED FASTER TO GET THERE. THAT WAS THE SLOWEST CAR RIDE I'VE EVER HAD. WANTING AND NEEDING TO GET TO YOU AS FAST AS I COULD AND THE NEIGHBOR JUST SLOW- ASS POKES ALONG. PULLED UP TO GET OUT & YOUR BROTHER COMES OVER AND SHAKES HIS HEAD NO....HUGS ME AND SAYS YOU DIDN'T MAKE IT. I LOOK AROUND AND I SEE ALL THESE PEOPLE - WHO WERE ALREADY THERE BEFORE ME !!! ALL BECAUSE I HAD TO TAKE THE DAMMED SLOWEST RIDE OF ALL TIMES. HOW I FAILED YOU! I COULDN'T EVEN GET THERE FAST ENOUGH. (YOU KNOW THAT OLD SAYING: IF YOU WANT SOMETHING DONE RIGHT - DO IT YOURSELF!) I HOPE THAT THIS DOESN'T HAPPEN AGAIN - BUT, I'LL DRIVE MYSELF THE NEXT TIME!
THESE ARE THE THOUGHTS THAT CROSS MY MIND - JUST ABOUT ON A DAILY BASIS. THOUGH LIFE HAS CONTINUED - BECAUSE IT HAS TOO...MY MIND IS FOREVER THINKING OF JARRETT AND ALL THE WHAT IF'S, HOW COME AND WHY'S. I'VE NEVER THOUGHT THAT IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN ONE OF THE OTHER TWO FIREFIGHTERS. NEVER!
THE ONE THING THAT WE CAN BE THANKFUL FOR ~ IF WE SHOULD "HAVE" TO BE THANKFUL FOR LOSING HIM...IS THAT: JARRETT LOVED WHAT HE WAS DOING AND ENJOYED EVERY MINUTE OF IT. THE FIRE CHIEF SAID THAT HE HAD JUST VISITED WITH JARRETT THAT MORNING AND HE HAD A SMILE FROM EAR TO EAR AND SAID HE WAS READY FOR IT ~ THE NEW WORK SCHEDULE AND BEING AT THE NEW STATION. HE WAS HAPPY.
KNOWING THAT YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR LIFE ON THE LINE - EACH & EVERY TIME YOU PULL OUT OF THE STATION. NOT KNOWING IF YOU ARE GOING TO BE BACK OR NOT. BUT YOU LOVED IT!
THAT'S WHAT HELPS US...KNOWING THAT JARRETT LOVED IT WITH EVERYTHING THAT HE HAD IN HIM.
FOR THE PAST YEAR, WE'VE HAD TO FIGHT FOR HIS RIGHT AS A ''SINGLE'' STATE OF GA. EMPLOYEE. THE STATE OF GA. HAS A BENEFIT PACKAGE AND THE LAW WAS CHANGED TO WHERE ONLY MARRIED STATE OF GA. EMPLOYEES WHO PASS AWAY - THEIR FAMILY OR THEIR CHILDREN WILL RECEIVE THAT PACKAGE. IT'S NOT ABOUT THE MONEY...IT'S THE FACT THAT JARRETT ( & OTHERS) DO THIS JOB WITHOUT THINKING THAT THEY SHOULD BE MARRIED FIRST - BEFORE SAVING SOMEONE OR THEIR PROPERTY.
I MISS YOU AND WISH SO MUCH THAT THIS DIDN'T HAVE TO HAPPEN..... MY HEART IS BROKEN AND WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!
I LOVE YOU MY JARRETT
ALWAYS, MAMA
